I am moving my family to Asheville, NC as I write this blog.  My college bound daughter is upset because she won’t get to see her old friends when she visits home.  My second child is going to attend his Junior and Senior years of high school in a new state.  And my husband is afraid we’ll damage all of our kids for life, while struggling with his need for new beginnings and branching out to make friends as we become empty nesters.   

Many parents, partners, children, siblings, and friends leave familiar or loved ones behind as they “grow.”  Just take a look at the U.S. divorce rate, and trouble youth stats as evidence.  It can sound terrible when I “write it out loud,” but my momdar (mom radar) says better to uproot my family and deal head on with the hurt, sadness, frustration, even hatred that would be projected my way. Rather than filters being clogged up with “My Wife or my Mom doesn’t want me/us” bitterness, there is a transition that communicates “My Wife or my Mom is walking her path and is taking me/us kicking and screaming but she wants me/us.”    

Many people walk away from situations without receiving others’ truths (whether accurate or inaccurate) because they can’t face UNagreeable processing.  From the simple patterns of being unkind or superior to a waiter, a cashier, an associate, a peer (many times masking this with excuses for why they deserved the behavior as you walk away) to leaving a love or blood relationship.  Too many “walk aways” leave a residue.  It creates an accumulation of individual damaged filters, building groupings of callouses and downright nasty energy that effects the All Are One.

How much do you receive (not absorbing physically as your truth or even changing your action but simply hearing) to keep all processing flowing in a productive direction?